That is excellent advice, but not easy to do if you or your date are not already mature and relatively free of romantic or political expectations of male-female relationships.For that reason, I favor in my own book dispensing altogether with “dating,” an artificial construct, in favor of “relating,” doing normal things together as friends and building reciprocal trust and understanding through shared activities (work and play) meaningful to both.And, deciding to be true to myself, I am sure I'll be better off without someone who disrespects me.In my opinion, it's a book about learning to stand for something versus accepting the justifications I tell myself and making us both miserable.
The premise of this book is stated in the subtitle, “Finding Love by Getting Real” and by the line on the flyleaf, “Honesty is the only hope for relationships.” I couldn’t agree more.
It will most likely be a little challenging for you to do at first, and will require you to have an open mind and change the way you think.
But it makes 100% sense -- being real in the beginning is best for everyone.
I found this book to be the best of the genre because it artfully disperses theory, practice, and examples in a format that is easy to digest and relate to.
I love personal growth and deeply connected relationship and this book promotes that focus.