Attitudes toward interracial marriage are so progressive that some people prefer to exclusively date interracially. There are a number of reasons not to date interracially, including for social status, because it’s trendy or to remedy a rocky love life.Dating interracially with misguided motives will inevitably lead to problems.A person this insecure is unlikely to make a good partner.As the old saying goes, you can’t love someone until you love yourself.As soon as a black woman made it, she should marry a white man.”No one should date interracially due to external pressures.If Barack Obama won his presidential campaign with a black woman at his side, it’s certainly not necessary for, say, a businessman to date interracially for the purpose of upward mobility.If you disagree with your parents’ views on race, challenge them directly by broaching discussions about the issue with them.
No child should feel pressured to go along with their parents’ racist beliefs.Because the United States remains racially stratified, however, it’s considered advantageous for members of oppressed groups to pair up with those of more powerful groups.From the Antebellum Era on, such partnerships have allowed people of color to gain access to a quality of life that likely would’ve eluded them otherwise.Rather than dating across ethnic lines for validation, such people need to learn how to feel better about who they are.Seeking therapy, reading up on their cultural background and surrounding themselves with positive images related to their ethnic group may help.Farr did go on to date black and Puerto Rican men, however, and her parents came around.Farr defied her parents’ dating rules because she formed genuine connections with men from minority backgrounds.Although today racial minorities can largely succeed in society on their own, some elite people of color may feel the need to score a spouse from another race to boost their image or better fit into the corporate landscape.As noted in the short story collection , “The world out there insisted as soon as a black man made it, he should marry a white woman.The common interests and chemistry you have with a person should be the driving force for your decision to pursue a relationship. The person who becomes part of such pair because it’s hip or trendy won’t be prepared to deal with them.Many parents tell children outright which racial groups they approve of them dating and which racial groups they forbid them to date. Now married to a Korean-American man, Farr had been told growing up that her boyfriends could only be German, Irish, French or Jewish."No blacks and no Puerto Ricans, though, or you are out of my house," Farr recalled her mother saying.